Ah, the human mind. It’s something else, isn’t it? Many books have been written studying our human nature, mainly because us, humans, are not your average mammals, but rather quite complex beings. And while we do have some apparent human behavior patterns, most of us have no idea how easy it is actually to read them without involving any real psychoanalysis. It turns out that no raised eyebrow, nose scratch, or foot placement is done without reason.
Whether you’re shy and uncomfortable in social situations or the most seasoned extrovert, everyone can use a few tips to increase their social likability. Some of these psychological tricks are really easy, and you can use them every day. So, what can you gain from these life hacks? Well, you could appear more confident than you really are, and that is a great start.
Ready to try some simple tricks? Here are 12 of our favorites.
12. Getting Information
If you have a friend that struggles to open up to you, tell you how their feeling, or even give you simple information; this trick is a perfect way to get that information out of them in full detail.
Ask them a question, and if they respond partially, or it feels like they’re hiding something, simply keep eye contact and remain silent for a few seconds.
The silence combined with eye contact will make them uncomfortable. They’ll do anything to break this tension, even if that means giving you the information they were holding back.
So remain silent for a few seconds, and they will most likely continue to talk.
11. The Snack-man
If you are in a group of people, or even just with one other person, and you feel like conflict is about to break out, try this.
People who are eating usually feel comfortable within their environment. Eating is a calming activity, and will likely help to smooth out conflict.
If someone is angry with you and you start to eat, this will help keep conflict at bay. This fact was originally discovered after two people were fighting and one guy stepped in between them whilst eating a slice of pizza.
He was coined the snack-man.
10. The Stalker Detector
Do you ever get that feeling like somebody’s eyes are on you and they’re intently watching you? Maybe you can feel somebody’s stare on the back of your head?
If you want to find out whether or not they were watching you, try this simple psychology trick:
Make sure they can see you when you yawn. After you yawn, turn and look at them. If they’re now yawning, you know that they were watching you. This is because yawning is contagious.
Try it… watch a video of someone yawning, and see if you do the same. In fact, even while writing this section of the article, I’m finding myself yawn uncontrollably.
This is a great trick for anybody who wants to find out if someone is showing an interest in them, like a crush or so on.
9. Destroying Ear-Worms
Ever had a song stuck inside your head? I know you have… The melody just keeps replaying over and over inside your mind, but you can’t quite seem to remember which song it is! And while you can’t remember, you keep trying to remember. Which leads to you wasting a huge amount of time trying to remember the name of something incredibly pointless.
Well, here’s the common psychology trick you’ve been waiting your entire life to hear.
Think of the end of the song. Not the beginning, or the middle. The end. Your mind will continue to think of things that are unfinished or incomplete, according to the Zeignark effect.
Therefore if you think of the end of the melody, the song will be complete and your mind will reset. This’ll release the song from your mind, so you can get back to focusing on something productive.
8. Clearing A Path
The chances are you’re often in crowded places, and that can be a big annoyance for a lot of people, including me. Sometimes people aren’t walking the same pace, they’re standing still, or there’s just so many people you can’t move.
Here’s a pretty obvious, yet effective trick you can use to help clear yourself a path: Just look in the direction you want to go.
Don’t look at the people around you, the environment, your phone or your friends. Just look at where you’re headed, and people will make an effort to move out of your way.
The reason for this is that normally people will look at your eyes, and if they can see what your vision is fixed on, they have a better understanding of your mission, and will naturally move out the way. Give it a try.
7. Reducing the Risk of Conflict
If you’re in a group gathering or meeting, and you think someone is likely to become aggressive towards you, sit next to them.
It’s very easy to show anger towards someone when they’re sitting on the other side of the table, but if they’re sitting next to that person, then it makes things harder and more awkward to do so.
Firstly, you have to turn your body. Secondly, there is an intimidation factor. And thirdly, sitting next to each other makes things more personal, and you’re unable to hide within the group’s circle.
6. Shoot for the Stars
When you want something from someone; be it a certain amount of money for an item you’re selling, or you want your kids to eat more vegetables, aim ridiculously high. Start by suggesting an amount that is much higher than the amount you want.
When the person says no, which they should say if you’ve given a high enough number, then you can ask for the real amount.
The other person will feel bad for already having said no, and will be more likely to accept your offer this time around.
5. Being Memorable
This little psychology trick can be incredibly useful if you’re trying to stand out and give people a clear memory of yourself or the time you spent with them.
It’s said that people remember the beginning and the end of something the clearest. The middle, however, is where things might tend to get a little blurry.
What does this mean? Well, if your setting up a time for an interview, try and make sure you’re either interviewed first or last. If you’re going on a date, try picking the beginning or the end of the day. And, whilst on the date, make sure to set a strong impression for the beginning and end of the date.
4. Learning While Teaching
A lot of people don’t realize this, but people learn best when they’re teaching others. Which means that if you take your learning process one step further, and teach someone else after you’ve studied and practiced the information, you will also significantly benefit.
The three steps of knowledge are:
- Researching & learning
And it makes a lot of sense. Think about it. To teach someone else, you have to have all the information at hand. You’ll also have to organize it and present it in a suitable format for the individual, which requires more knowledge.
3. Warm Hands
When you shake someone’s hand for the first time, try and make sure you have warm hands. Warm hands mean exactly that, a warm approach and introduction.
This makes you far more impressive and attractive to the other person, no matter who they are. Cold hands symbolize a cold and poor introduction.
2. Eliminating Haters
If you think that someone doesn’t like you, try asking them for a really small favor, like borrowing their pen. If they don’t like you, then they will be inclined to say no to your request, naturally.
However, asking to borrow a pen is such a small favor, that it’s incredibly hard for anyone to say no to that. After accepting your request for a small favor, he will eventually come to the conclusion that you’re okay after all.
1. The Great Listener
Whenever you’re friend makes a statement, paraphrase it, and repeat it. This way, they’ll think you’re paying a great deal of intention and listening intently to what they have to say.
Don’t do this all the time though. That would not work out well for you.