Success is one of the most-used words in the English language. However, you define it – money, position, family size/dynamics, service – we all want to succeed in whatever drives us. As we strive to reach that success, we’re always on the hunt for tips and ways to get there. We keep searching, and we keep adding things to the toolbox. However, occasionally, we have to clean the toolbox and get rid of things that try to hinder our success. Here are some things you should cut out in order to reach your goals.
If you want to achieve anything in life, everything starts here. First, you have to take care of your health, and there are only two things you need to keep in mind:
1. Healthy Diet
2. Physical Activity
Small steps, but you will thank yourself one day.
The Fear of Uncertainty
Nothing in life is established. There are no guarantees, ever. Building your own business, embarking on a side project, or trying a whole new career doesn’t mean you’re diverting from the path of certainty and into a life of the reckless unknown. It means you recognize that certainty is an illusion, and clinging to it can ultimately hold you back.
The Short-Term Mindset
Successful people set long-term goals, and they know these aims are merely the result of short-term habits that they need to do every day. These healthy habits shouldn’t be something you do, rather they should be something you embody. There is a difference between: “working out to get a summer body,” and, “working out because that’s who you are.”
If you never try and take great opportunities, or allow your dreams to become realities, you will never unleash your true potential. And the world will never benefit from what you could have achieved. So voice your ideas, don’t be afraid to fail, and certainly don’t be afraid to succeed.
Successful people know that they are responsible for their life, no matter their starting point, weaknesses, and past failures. Realizing that you are responsible for what happens next in your life is both frightening and exciting. And when you do, that becomes the only way you can become successful, because excuses limit and prevent us from growing personally and professionally. Own your life; no one else will.
Ignoring Your Feelings
Your anger? It’s telling you where you feel powerless. Your anxiety? It’s telling you that something in your life is off-balance. Your fear? It’s telling you what you care about. Your apathy? It’s telling you where you’re overextended and burnt out. Your feelings aren’t random, they are messengers. And if you want to get anywhere, you need to be able to let them speak to you and tell you what you really need.
The Fixed Mindset
People with a fixed mindset think their intelligence or talents are simply fixed traits, and that talent alone leads to success – without hard work. They’re wrong. Successful people know this well. They invest an immense amount of time on a daily basis to develop a growth mindset, acquire new knowledge, learn new skills, and change their perception so that it can benefit their lives. Remember, who you are today is not who you have to be tomorrow.
The Idea of the “Magic Bullet”
Overnight success is a myth. Successful people know that making small continual improvement every day will be compounded over time, and give them desirable results. That is why you should plan for the future, but focus on the day that’s ahead of you, and improve just 1% every day.
Quick Fixes and Shortcuts
Building something lasting and meaningful won’t happen overnight. Real change happens gradually, and one habit at a time. Rather than trying to exert enough willpower to change something 100%, focus on how you can do 1% better each day, and over time, the effort will compound.
Nothing will ever be perfect, no matter how much we try. Fear of failure (or even fear of success) often prevents us from taking an action and putting our creation out there in the world. But a lot of opportunities will be lost if we wait for the things to be right.
Successful people know this. That’s why they choose one thing and focus on it. No matter what it is – a business idea, a conversation, or a workout. Being fully present and committed to one task, is indispensable.
Your Need to Control Everything
Some things are up to us, and some things are not. Differentiating between these two is important. Detach yourself from the things you cannot control, and focus on the ones you can, and know that sometimes, the only thing you will be able to control is your attitude towards something.
People we spend the most time with influence our personalities. There are people who are less accomplished in their personal and professional life, and there are people who are more accomplished than us. If you spend time with those who are behind you, your average will go down, and with it, your success. But if you spend time with people who are more accomplished than you, no matter how challenging that might be, you will become more successful. Take a look at around you, and see if you need to make any changes.
The Need to be Liked
Think of yourself as a market niche. There will be a lot of people who like that niche, and there will be individuals who don’t. And no matter what you do, you won’t be able to make the entire market like you. This is entirely natural, and there’s no need to justify yourself. The only thing you can do is to remain authentic, improve, and provide value every day, and know that the growing number of “haters” means that you are onto bigger and better things.
Dependency on Social Media and Television
Impulsive web browsing and television watching are diseases of today’s society. These two should never be an escape from your life or your goals. Unless your goals depend on either, you should minimize (or try to eliminate) your dependency on them, and direct that time towards things that can enrich your life.
All of the “bad habits” that are holding you back from your potential you most likely use to avoid discomfort. Most people build their lives around just doing what makes them feel most at ease without realizing that trying to avoid the inevitable is the fast track to complacency and actually facilitates prolonged anxiety.
The Victim Mentality
Your backstory does not define your life. Your current circumstances will not define your life. The only thing that defines your life is what you choose to do in response to them. Everyone has a story of struggle to share – some people define themselves by it, others act in spite of it. Your past will only be your future if you carry it there.
Learned helplessness is when people have faced so many challenges in their lives that they begin to believe they are powerless in the face of their external circumstances, and therefore, they just stop trying to change them. Re-learning that you are in control of more of your life than you’re not is imperative to moving it forward.
Everything that isn’t helping you move forward or build a life you’re proud of is simply a distraction. Whether this means streamlining your wardrobe, decluttering your home, parsing down on your project load, or even downsizing your social obligations, eliminating distractions is absolutely essential.
Waiting Until You “Feel Like It” to Get Started
Motivation isn’t something you wait for, it’s something you build. Passion might have told you what you want to do in life, but it isn’t going to be the thing that propels you through late nights of work and difficult days that make you just want to quit. To become a high achieving person, you need principles and you need habits. What we feel strongly about does not ultimately define our lives – what we do every day does.
Resistance is a normal response to stepping out of your comfort zone, going out on a limb, or trying something new. However, if you have more resistance than you do productivity, there’s something that needs to be addressed. You have to learn how to show up and do the work even when you don’t “feel like it” and recognize that sometimes, too much hesitance is actually a message that you aren’t quite on the right path yet.